Everyone in our world lies. Someone lies skillfully and it is difficult to catch him in a lie. Someone does not know how to lie at all and therefore always comes across. Lies are not always evil.
How to learn to lie convincingly
Sometimes there really is a lie “for good”. Regardless of the purpose of your lies, do it skillfully, then you will not be exposed.
Of course, lying is not good, and you know it, but sometimes it is still necessary to do it due to some circumstances. To lie convincingly, you need to gain the trust of your opponent. People trust people, with all their looks and all their gestures that inspire confidence. Build trust, and no one will even think about checking you.
The hardest part of lying is to look the person in the eye. Keeping a straight eye is not for everyone. When a person tells a lie, his gaze often “runs”, the person looks down or to the side, but does not look into the eyes of his interlocutor. You immediately involuntarily turn your attention to this, and it will destroy all your attempts to competently lie. Practice on your reflection in the mirror, learn to lie, looking into your eyes or at the bridge of your nose, in no case above and below. When you manage to maintain eye contact, then you can convincingly tell a lie to your interlocutor.
In addition to your eyes, you will have to watch the movements of your hands, they can also give you away. While lying, your adrenaline level rises in your blood, you can start fiddling with a detail of your clothes, hair or pen, whatever comes to hand. Obsessive movements betray your excitement at the moment of lies. During all these activities, you try to hide your palms. An open palm facing the interlocutor is a sign of trust and openness. So try not to hide your hands, but stay calm and confident.
Not only your hands can give away your inner anxiety, your whole body can speak of your attempt to lie. People who tell lies try to keep a closed posture. They cross their arms over their chest, may hug their shoulders, cross their legs, or lean back in a sitting position. All these movements will give you away immediately, so when you lie, try to keep yourself relaxed, free and open. Then the interlocutor will have confidence in you, and your words will be taken at face value.
In addition to body movements, your words spoken thoughtlessly, even your tone and voice, can give you away. If you want to inspire confidence, speak confidently and calmly. Do not swallow words, do not rush, do not start stuttering, as you will immediately give yourself away. If you speak softly or too loudly, you too may be exposed. Do not try to get away from the topic as soon as possible, this is suspicious, as is too long a story with the slightest details. It’s better to be concise and brief, but not too. This is a very fine line, once you feel it, you will become a professional liar.
Know that if you lie often, you can easily get confused in your lies. At such a moment, you no longer remember what you said, once getting out and telling a lie. So if you lie, then do it when absolutely necessary, less often, so that you can remember what you so convincingly lied about the day before. For this reason, it is better to refrain from lying and avoid it. Then if you have to lie once, you will not get entangled in your own web of lies.
You need to avoid lies not only for this reason, just think about why you need to stain your conscience, because unseemly lies can be revealed.
How to learn to lie convincingly
At such moments, it can be very embarrassing and unpleasant, especially if the lie concerns people close to you. Lies don’t make you richer or better, lies don’t do you any good. So only use it in really desperate situations, when the truth is much worse and you want to do the best. But never forget: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”.